144 - How the Sacred Six Process Helps you Get Things Done
We live in an age of distraction. Every day we’re bombarded with emails, tweets, instant messages, texts, phone calls, and whatever other technologies they come up with. Is it any wonder that at the end of the day we find it hard to maintain any focus at all, never mind focus on what’s most important to us? We need to get our values in order, along with clear goals that are aligned with our purpose.
A lack of clarity
When I ask myself what issue most of my clients and listeners are facing, it’s just that: Lack of clarity. So many of us lack a clear purpose.
We need to get our values in order, along with clear goals that are aligned with our purpose.
There are four main ingredients in the Sacred Six process: Alignment, mission, values and goals.
Alignment is both the culmination of the process — a result of your mission, values, and goals working together to take you to your dreams — and the state of mind in which to begin the journey. Understanding the way alignment works is the key to the process.
Alignment is what is going to keep you moving forward: It sets the direction you are going; it lays the tracks for your train. If you were to throw the wrong switch, trains would crash. Being out of alignment is like a life full of train wrecks.
A lack of alignment is one of the major problems in the world today. Most people are distracted and living scattered, directionless lives that are not moving them closer to their dreams. If your goals are not aligned with your mission or values, they will leave you dissatisfied and unhappy, even when you achieve what you set out to do.
While I was slaving away in corporate America, all I wanted was to be free. I was making a lot of money, which was one of my goals, but I had no freedom, my number one value. How was I supposed to be happy if the thing I wanted more than anything else was missing from my life?
Achieving alignment in your life is not a linear process, and it will vary for each individual. For purposes of explanation, I suggest that defining your mission is the first step. For some of you, discovering your values will precede finding your mission. That’s okay. There is no right or wrong order in this process. What’s essential is simply to establish your mission and values.
One of the key steps toward living the life of your dreams is to identify your mission — your purpose, or what is driving you at this moment. A mission can be as lofty and overarching as finding a cure for cancer or as intimate as communicating better with your kids.
In my case, I had to start by taking a deeper look at how I was living. What was the next experience I wanted to have? How did I want to feel?
I believed I was destined to help people; I just didn’t know how I was going to do it. Then I felt a calling to write my first book. I thought all I had to do was write the book and get it printed, and everything else would unfold from there. Clearly that wasn’t the case. Nonetheless, I remained sure I had found my mission: To help others, just as my mentors had helped me.
Many of us are waiting for the archangel Gabriel himself to come down and hand us our marching orders. Most of the time, mission is much less dramatic than that. For me, mission was more a whisper than a roar — I just knew intuitively the next right thing to do.
Your mission doesn’t have to be your overall life purpose — though for some people it might be. And it isn’t carved in stone: Mission is fluid, changing as you and your life change. I prefer to think of mission as simply the next experience or set of experiences you want to have in your life.
Whatever your mission, the point is that it calls you to slow down and identify your real purpose. What are you moving toward? It took me a while to grasp the importance of that question. Even now, I have to check once a month and ask myself, w hat am I moving toward? The answer tells me whether or not I am still on course.
Knowing your mission is only one part of the alignment equation. The other driving force is what you value. As you consider what you are moving toward, you need to ask yourself, What are my values? What is important to me?
Values are a huge component of a good life. So why have so few of us ever analyzed ours? People spend months planning their weddings, which last for one day, yet they take no time at all to organize their lives. So you need to examine what’s truly important to you.
My own values are spirituality, family, freedom, prosperity, and peace. Yours may be very different. Keeping my values at the forefront of my mind helps me keep my life in alignment. My values help me make decisions, help me live an abundant lifestyle. Values are critical: Raising your awareness of your values keeps you moving toward the life you want.
When I am faced with a decision, the first thing I do is make sure that what I decide is aligned with my values. Because freedom is one of my top values, I have turned down a number of business opportunities that offered a lot of money but were ultimately constraining.
I have also worked hard on learning to trust my intuition in decision making. Now when I have a gut sense about a decision, I run it by my values to make sure my intuitive feeling is consistent with my inner truth.
The breakdown of alignment normally happens at the mission or values stage, but it is at the goals stage that you can actually start to see the misalignment. When I work with new clients, the first thing I ask them about are their goals, because most people have goals and can tell you what they are. Once I have their goals in hand, I ask to see their mission and values. Often I get a blank stare in return.
From what I can tell, 95 percent of people have not identified their mission or values, which makes alignment impossible, since you can’t align your life without knowing who you are and what you want. So the first assignment I give clients is to identify their mission and values. That tells me who they are. Then we can compare who they are with their goals and see what changes they need to make to bring their goals into alignment with their mission and values.
In my youth, my goals had a lot to do with money and partying, which meant I was incredibly out of alignment with my mission to help people and bring positive energy into the world and with my core value of freedom. I kept taking promotion after promotion to attain my money goal, but a more appropriate goal would have been to find work that generated revenue and also provided freedom and helped people. Thankfully, that is exactly the type of work I’m doing today.
Putting it all together
Once you gain clarity on the four ingredients of the Sacred Six process, the next step is to put them together. For this to work, you need to build belief — belief in yourself, belief that what you want will come into your life, belief that the past does not equal the future. And then you need to move into action. You can start to manifest the life of your dreams through belief, but action is critical to fully inhabit it.
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